Divorce – ending what began with hope
Most people enter into a committed relationship with the hope of deep and lasting intimacy. Ending a marriage or other union is an enormously painful experience. Given that we begin such a relationship with ceremony and great intention, why is it that sitting down with a lawyer is often the only associated rite for its ending? Do we not deserve more than that?
In my practice as a Celebrant, I see an enormous need for ceremonies to unbind the emotional ties of a relationship in a way legal paperwork simply cannot address. This unbinding of emotional ties allows individuals to move forward with resolve and confidence.
I’m thrilled that more and more people are beginning to realize the importance of this. CBC Radio has done a documentary on my Divorce Ceremonies. And I’ve written for a number of divorce publications such as Divorce, Debt, and Finances on subjects such as Living with your Ex. And most recently an article by Modern Celebrant appeared in the prestigious Spirituality and Health Magazine. WOW!
Who is a Divorce Ceremony for?
I generally work with individual clients (typically 1 – 2 years after the actual divorce) who are having a hard time moving through their pain and embracing their future. If this is you, a Divorce Ceremony (not a Divorce Party) will do much more than recognize the hurt your parting has caused. The intentional reflection and planning, along with a meaningful ending ritual such as a Pledge of Release, helps you regain your personal authority. You become the ‘doer’ not the ‘done to’.
The Result of a Divorce Ceremony
A powerful shift takes place when you symbolically take your leave from one time of your life and step forward into a new one. Think of it as crossing an emotional threshold where you will embrace the opportunities that lie ahead. The emotional transformation is often quite dramatic and the effect on family and friends no less profound, allowing them to address their own hurts and resentments.
Please call me at 604-992-4217 to talk about creating a Divorce Ceremony that will help you mindfully embrace your future.
Michele Davidson,
Professional Celebrant
Vancouver & Whistler BC
