Wow! Working with Zoë and Tyler was an incredible privilege. They were totally into the reflective process that I mindfully guide couples through before I write their ceremony. Zoë and Tyler, like all the the couples I work with, BELIEVE in the transformative power of ceremony. They found the time spent reflecting on the deeper meaning of the life transition that is marriage to be immensely valuable.
Zoë and Tyler made a strong commitment to this process… in fact the strongest I’ve ever experienced with a couple. They journalled and thought deeply about the questions I asked. And thus they gave me FANTASTIC material to weave the storytelling tapestry of their wedding ceremony from.
Far too many wedding ceremonies these days feel like some sort of hoop to jump through. Zoë and Tyler couldn’t imagine having a ceremony like that. This couple wanted their wedding ceremony to sing with their intentions and their feelings. They wanted it to be an authentic reflection of their innermost selves.
When a ceremony is alive with this much meaning, it is a transformational and very collective experience. We don’t have many of those anymore, do we?
The ceremony was held at the Rose Garden in New Westminister on the one brilliantly sunny day in a week of rain. My powers as a keeper-away of rain seem to be developing well! The couple’s guests sat in a semicircle facing them, so they could see every smile and tear on Zoë and Tyler’s faces.
Everyone seemed to enjoy the ring warming and the Handfasting ritual… fielded lots of enthusiastic comments and questions afterwards. People loved hearing all the things that Zoë and Tyler respect and admire about each other… and about the things that they do to bring laughter and kindness into their days.
Family is VIP to both, and I loved that they held Japanese prayer beads belonging to Zoe’s parents, who had them at their own wedding. Here is a photo. All the photos here were taken by the lovely Jenny of Jenny Photography. She really cares!